"These researchers compared children of divorced parents with children of married parents on a variety of behavioral and emotional measures." Cherlin, J. A., (2000). Children are usually set aside during the divorce process. Parents often argue about who will have custody of the child(ren), but has anyone ever questioned them to see what they wanted. I was not given the option to choose which parent I wanted to reside with. I wish I could be taken into consideration when this was discussed. Not that it wouldn't have made a difference to me, both parents still shared custody